Over the past three years the motivation for my biggest achievements – starting my coaching business, getting into public speaking and creating an educational platform for women – all came from being angry.
Being angry at myself, at others, at the world.
First. I could not stand the way people would talk about their ideas and then do absolutely nothing to achieve them. I offered the talkers to be their iDEA Project manager and from there I got into coaching people on how to make their big ideas a reality and close the gap between talking and doing.
While helping them, I grew a lot too, because as we know what annoys us in others first of all we have in us.
Second. I was sick and tied of people not understanding me when I spoke because I believed I was saying something important. I decided to stop being a victim and I signed up for Toastmasters and after giving my first Ice Breaker almost had a heart attack, I survived that and 2 years later became the President of a young, very successful toastmaster club and now I give two hours seminars to inspire people to go after their big ideas (because I am angry if they do not :)).
Third. She4C was a response to understanding that we as women are really confused now and there are so many confusing messages that instead of using all of the choices as women we have today, we are just downgrading and simply go with old stories instead trying to create a new ones. My business partner and I knew that in rider to make difference we needed to do something about it, start a dialog with other women, and engage them in a way they had not engaged before. That is how She4C got started.
It is never easy to go after your Big iDEAs or understanding your anger and really do something about it, specifically changing something. I know from my personal experience in the long run is so fascinating and bigger then me that it becomes irrelevant that is not easy today, what becomes more important what I am as an individual contributing to the bigger picture of the world. How do I make the world a better place on monthly basis.
In the article at American Physiological Association “When anger’s a plus” says:
“Imagine what the women’s suffrage movement would have been like if women had said, ‘Guys, it’s really so unfair, we’re nice people and we’re human beings too. Won’t you listen to us and give us the vote?” says social psychologist Carol Tavris, PhD, author of “Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion” (Simon & Schuster, 1989). “To paraphrase Malcolm X, there’s a time and a place for anger, where nothing else will do.”
I think if Betty Frieden did not got sick and tied of women position in society in 1960’s, she would never wrote her famous article in Good Housekeeping magazine “Women are people too” and then her groundbreaking book “The Feminine Mystique” and 2nd wave of feminism would not happen.
Mahatma Gandhi, in his writings spoke of transforming the energy of anger into nonviolent actions which brought about constructive social change.
- Gandhi did not agree with the British that Indians were 2d class people.
- He did not attack the British.
- Neither was he passively accepting. He would not obey their discriminatory laws.
- Instead Gandhi aligned with the Truth that “all men are created equal” and he worked successfully for constructive change.
All three of them could have just been Angry. Anger with no purpose. But instead they channeled their anger towards the positive. Towards the greater good.
Look around and see what annoys the hell out of you in yourself, in others, in the world. Be a solution and do something about it.
Use your anger about something to get on the wave of being action oriented, make the difference in the world, just run with it, do something about it. Start a blog, volunteer, sign up for the course, but do something. We all got to start somewhere and we fall we need to stand up and do it again.
Get Angry and make the world a better place.