Dedicated to my wonderful girlfriend who is married to a great guy
I am single but I have a lot of married friends. The world needs an equal amount of single and married people, it keeps things balanced. Each side has a different perspective. It seems like married people are jealous of single people and singles are jealous of married people. It’s an ongoing, Shakespeare-like cycle of jealousy of what the other side has.
I frequently ask my married friends about their sex lives. Not in great detail, nothing juicy. Just a nice sex check-in. We are talking about healthy and average women. I’m always surprised to learn that a lot of them aren’t having sex. Even though I am single and available (hint hint) I am concerned about these married friends who aren’t having sex. Or don’t want to have sex.
Disclosure: I am not a sex expert. Or even a very experienced practitioner. I’m just a human with an opinion and a blog.
When my married girlfriends confess that they aren’t having have sex, my first thought is “Why be in relationship then! What a waste of time.” I don’t say that though because I know that relationships are more than just sex.
But sex IS important too.
As a coach, I’m always curious about the well-being of my clients. Like any sort of problem my clients might have, I like to investigate the root cause. I always receive the same answer about sex, “I’m too STRESSED and TIRED.”
I’ll be honest, I think that’s a big red flag. The moment we don’t have energy for sex or masturbation or both, it means that something needs to change ASAP
When we lose our appetite for food we are concerned. We’re concerned because food is a source of energy. Sex is also a source of energy. It’s a way to connect to each other. Thus, we should be also concerned when we lose our appetite for sex. (As one of my friends said, it’s a biological need)
If your sex drive is gone because of stress and tiredness, then you need to stop and look at your life. Slow down. Do less. Make time to connect with your lover. AND GET YOUR MOJO BACK.
When you are tired and stressed, you aren’t doing good for yourself or the world. You are delivering half of your value. You’re half-assing things, including your sex life.
Take a close look at what you’re doing. Think about what’s causing you all this stress. Then ask yourself if it’s worth it. Maybe you can achieve things but at a slower pace.
Ladies, set your priorities straight. Your self-care must be priority number one and if you do not take good care of yourself nothing really matters.
I hope that by the time this blog is posted, my wonderful girlfriends got their mojo back. Maybe their husbands will send me flowers. ( Yes, I do accept thank you gifts from other people’s spouses.)
My resolution for 2016: less stress, more sex.
If you need to start small, hugging will work too.
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